How do you feed yourself while holding down a job/family/life and leading a Missional Community?
Most of us manage to keep ourselves physically fed even when resources are tight. We know it’s sensible if we eat at regular intervals. If we try to live on snacks as we rush from one thing to another the end result is an unhealthy body, the loss of energy and the ability to function effectively. So why do we find it hard to keep spiritually fed when we know that it is crucial?
Are you honest with yourself about what you can sustain in relation to the people you live and work with? Do you work out the priorities in your life and try to make them happen? Do you review this regularly?
Managing time helps us to be physically present. To function and lead well we need to manage our energy – physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. We each have a physical, emotional and spiritual well of energy which we need to keep filled and not allow it to get too low. Leading anything requires us to be fully engaged, prepared and focused. If we allow ourselves to become drained in our lives we become ineffective as leaders.
Leading a Missional Community isn’t something you should be doing on your own. It requires a team. Planing ahead and communicating well is crucial. Involve others in what you’re doing in your life and in your Missional Community. Always keep yourself accountable. Surround yourself with people who will encourage you, challenge you and keep you accountable.
As we have led Missional Communities and supported Missional Community leaders one of the things we have observed is the tendency to make things too complicated. This increases the work load and pressure on the leader. If we spend too much time in planning and preparation we just won’t have the time or energy to feed ourselves spiritually.
It goes without saying that spending time with God both personal and corporate is vital. But be honest and ask yourself – How am I doing this? Is my personal time with God the best I can do? If not what am I going to do about it?
If you, as a leader, are not spiritually fed you won’t have anything to share with those you lead. We see very clearly from the Gospels that Jesus took regular time out to be alone with the Father and to be refreshed and restored. If it was important to Jesus then it is vital for us!
Keep focused and fresh in your Bible reading.
Ask one or two friends to pray for you and keep them updated on how to pray. Be honest with them.
Celebration and worship with others may be part of what you do when meeting in your Missional Community, but worshiping with the wider church family is very necessary. This should be a time when you receive. It may be at the Sunday Church Celebration when you don’t have the responsibility to lead in any way.
If you are leading a Missional Community then you should be in a huddle. Ensure you make your huddle a priority. It is a time to be vulnerable, to be challenged and to be cared for. It is a place and time to be able to share with others and to learn from them.
Accept teaching and training when available. It is a special time to receive, to learn and to grow. If necessary adjust some other things to make it possible.
Build into your schedule something you really enjoy doing. Ensure you have times when you relax and do nothing. For some of us this can be a challenge!
I no longer hold down a full time job while leading a Missional Community but I know and support Missional leaders who do. My routine now is generally lived at a more leisurely pace but I remember well the challenges there were for me. And sometimes I got it right but often I didn’t. You don’t have to figure it all out and get it all right. Having some predictable patterns in all of this will help us to be fed and sustained.
Jenny Rosser lives in Durham with her husband David. They have been involved in the development and implementation of Missional Communities for the past 11 years.
Planning your missional community diary can be daunting. It can seem like there’s a lot to fit in. A heartbeat of worship and prayer. Social time together. Discipleship sessions. Opportunities to invite friends. Acts of service. How can we plan rhythms that give expression to all that whilst still keeping things simple?
It is a question we’ve wrestled with a lot over the years. In fact, my MC roared with laughter when they heard that I’d been asked to write on this topic! You see, I love complexity and am comfortable with a fairly complicated diary, and as we are in a fairly unique cultural context we had to figure out appropriate rhythms by trial and error. Needless to say, it took several attempts to find a sustainable pattern for us.
As we have we established simple and predictable rhythms for our community, we find people can more easily connect to the life of the group. For example, we hold a monthly Sunday afternoon tea in the park, and find that friends now expect an invitation and are more prepared to come along. They even remind us when we skip a month!
Simplicity also helps the MC members keep a sustainable lifestyle. Don’t laugh, but when we started, our monthly diary had a ‘discipleship session’ (in a different home each month), an outward focused Bible study in a local bar, a social activity (format, time and venue decided each month) , and a ‘service day’ (theme, time, venue decided each month). There was too much variability, and people were getting confused and worn out keeping their diary organised! We quickly ratcheted back to something simpler.
So here are four lessons on simplicity that we’ve learned the hard way over the last four or five years.
Adjust gradually. When our home group transitioned into a missional community, we moved from the simplest possible rhythm (an evening meeting once a week) to the most complicated (the one described above)! Oops. It may seem obvious, but now I would recommend changing just one thing at a time. Try it for a while. If it works, keep it. If not, adjust again. Our own practice is now to review our community life once a year and make adjustments in our rhythm at that point.
Attend to seasons. There is a time for everything, and not everything has to happen at once! There may be a time for widening the reach of your MC and finding new people of peace, a time for working with your people of peace, a time for pulling back for deeper prayer, a time of training, and so on. Whilst I would not recommend flip-flopping between very different rhythms in these times, don’t feel you need to do everything all the time.
Take an integrated approach. Not everything needs its own meeting! We are moving away from different events for different aspects of MC life in favour of a simpler structure – in this case a fortnightly community night – that covers several areas (e.g. fellowship, prayer, discipleship …) in such a way that we can invite friends to join us. This increases regularity and predictability. We will also maintain our Sunday afternoons in the park.
Watch for the organic. You don’t need to programme everything! As long as there is enough discipling going on and a clear missional vision, things will start to bubble up by themselves. Examples of organic life in our MC include a monthly men’s night out, a Christianity Explored course amongst a certain group of friends, and various 1:1 discipling relationships. In fact, by over-programming you will reduce the margin in your team’s lives and discourage them from launching these kind of organic initiatives.
I would love to hear about your own experiences. What have been the difficulties and successes you’ve encountered in this area?
“Can I really infuse missionary fun for kids into the headache that is Halloween?”
Halloween has always caused a headache for church kids & youth workers, groups and parents alike. Do I really need to put the house on lock down? Throw unlimited energy into a huge ‘Light Party’ at church? Or simply give into the commercial machine to celebrate all things dark?
It got me reflecting.
If my desire is to disciple kids with a missionary outlook on life, not one dependent on avoidance or a church sub culture, I’m going to have to re think what I do with the headache that is Halloween.
Looking at the Bible it clearly shows Jesus as salt and light in the midst of life, a game changer…not someone off the field of play.
Looking at my kids they wanted to get (loads of) sweets/candy, be with friends, possibly get dressed up and from the opportunity that only this night offers, have the sense of risk knocking on doors to meet their community.
Looking at the ministry I was hoping to form a culture where kids have a platform in learning to listen to God, look outwards, bless and pray for their community.
Following a bit of observing and discussing the ingredients baked into a plan:
‘The Bright not Fright night’
A model I felt offered something different to keeping the kids in church or in the house (both I have done), but began to release them amongst their peers and community. So what does it involve?
1. Telling the kids they are going out on Halloween night…and yes friends can come if they wish.
2. They can dress up. Something fun, preferably bright – nothing to fright.
3. They are going to get lots of sweets/candy and snacks!
Snacks will be given away from pre-fixed addresses from homes belonging to church families or Missional Community. These work as pit stops on the route you wish to take around your village, town or community. My suggestion is that you stock up supplies at 3 homes (but of course this can be anything from 1 to100). I have found choosing the pit stops wisely can also offer a real opportunity for cross-generational engagement.
4. They will be supplied with a quantity of chocolate/candy to go and give away to people in between each pit stop. Encourage the kids to use this time to pray for the people, homes and streets they are walking past, and when prompted by the Holy Spirit to knock on a door to ‘greet and treat’. If you have time a note or sticker on the chocolate/sweets could read -
This is our Bright not Fright night. Here is your ‘greet and treat’ from ——— church. Just to let you know we are thinking of and praying for you this evening. http://www.your church website.com
The reactions can be brilliant, if not one of slight confusion to be receiving a treat on this night. We also found that some households at this point want to give us their sweets. It is up to you how you respond. We said to the kids don’t expect to receive something, but if offered to go for it, taking on the idea of a ‘person of peace’ from Luke 10:6-7, and if we are honest what a bonus for the kids!
Now we treat Halloween as no longer a headache but a night of missionary fun.
Andy Hawkins lives in Gateshead with his wife and 3 kids, and has a varied 15 years experience leading, discipling and educating children and young people.
Well it feels as if Autumn is well and truly underway here in the north of the UK and it’s amazing how quickly the shift of seasons can happen. A week ago our lawn was looking green, now it is covered with a beautiful carpet of orange and brown leaves. I am ignoring the fact that this means we will need to sweep them up soon.
Sometimes the shift of season for our Missional Communities feels like it can happen very quickly too. Perhaps we’ve been enjoying the laid back nature of gathering for fun and relaxed times over the summer and suddenly we’re very aware of how full life has become again for people. Sometimes perhaps we feel like we’ve been praying for a particular breakthrough in our MC and it suddenly happens without any warning and you’re into the next phase of what God wants to do. Instead of lurching from one season to another how should we respond to these shifts?
We may need to re-evaluate several things, including:
whether our current rhythms/patterns work for this new season
whether it’s a season to call people in or release them out
whether to start something new, or stop something – or both!
whether it’s a time for waiting on the Lord or acting in response to what He’s saying
whether what we’re doing is simple, sustainable and reproducible
or many other things
At our church the leaders of one particular MC had been praying and recognising that there was so much leadership potential in the community they wanted to release people to lead in their own God-given vision. At our leaders Learning Community in May they shared that with the room without any real idea of how it was going to happen, other than trusting the Holy Spirit to do it. Fast forward to July and we found ourselves at a final BBQ celebrating 5 years of this MC and praying for the leaders of 2 new communities which have come from it.
This season has been echoed across the church. 3 MCs actually ended in the summer after much prayer and discussion – we joked that we managed to halve the number of MCs we had in just one week! On the surface, and to those not convinced by MCs, that can look like failure. We have worked hard to communicate messages about seeds dying and going into the ground, about God pruning things for greater fruit, and about how we often need a ‘gap’, uncomfortable as that may be, to give space for new things to grow and develop.
And, praise God, they are. We have had 2 new communities launch this week, and another 2 in the pipeline for the next few weeks and we are having lots of conversations with people about vision that God is stirring in them for new things. We are eager to see what God is doing with them. Alongside that we are running something we are calling Basecamp – a 7-week series of evenings going back to basics and exploring things like our vision & values, covenant & kingdom, family on mission, people of peace, discipleship and exploring personal vision (we actually pinched the idea from King’s Church Warrington – thanks guys!) We are calling all those who are either ‘in-between’ MCs, new to the church or just want to put aside the space to hear what God is saying to join us. We are excited about what new visions and connections between people will emerge.
What about you? What kind of season is your MC in? Or your church? What is God saying about how you need to respond to that? Don’t be afraid of making the uncomfortable decisions if necessary.
Helen Askew lives in Harrogate, North Yorkshire along with her two children and husband Ben who is as a Pioneer Curate in the Church of England. She has been part of and led Missional Communities for over 14 years. They work for Kairos Network Church, an Anglican Fresh Expression, and are also involved with 3DM Europe.
We’ve nearly made it to the end of another school year. Last night our team celebrated their final Kidz Klub before the summer holidays. They’ve worked hard and it is rightly time to look back and celebrate what God has done and look forward to a break from some of the tasks. So does that mean the team take six weeks off from being missionaries?
Rest is not the opposite of mission.
Yes some of the tasks will stop, yes it is rightly a time for slower rhythms of life, but no we don’t stop being missionaries. If we think mission equals events then we need to take a break from constant activity, hence stopping Kidz Klub for the summer. But as we learn mission is not just event but lifestyle, we have discovered that rest is an important part of our mission.
Mission includes inviting others into our patterns of rest.
If we embrace slower rhythms of life while remaining embedded in our community then we don’t take 6 weeks off from being missionaries, we have 6 weeks of being missionaries summer style.
What might it look like for you and your community to be summer style missionaries? Here are a couple of suggestions to get you thinking. Of course you know your group best and will need to think creatively about what works for your context.
Meet in the Park
In term time I meet with local parents and toddlers for a stay and play type group. Over the summer instead we are meeting at a local cafe followed by a local play park.
Think creatively about when and where you meet out over the summer.
Using your gardens
Sit around together on a summer evening in a garden with low structure. Time to remind ourselves what God has done in the past year and dream about the future. Time to catch up with each other and the things the matter to each of us. This is my plan for our gathering tomorrow evening.
Perhaps pick a night of the week you will gather informally in a garden to have a drink, pray and catch up.
Walk the Streets
In the holidays we’re going to make sure we include some time outside around our neighbourhood with our daughter each day. Nothing radical here, nothing hard work here, but surprisingly easy not to get round to.
The long light evenings make this a great time of year to walk around the block after work and before dinner. Catch up with neighbours you know or make new friends.
What is your tendency?
Some groups seek to sustain the life by continuing as if nothing has changed. The danger is these groups over stretch themselves with fewer resources during the summer weeks and arrive at September exhausted. If this is your current plan think carefully about how you can make your gatherings more lightweight. There are likely to be some things you need to not do. Make sure you have less events to organise over the summer.
Or do you stop entirely? This can leave people lonely and isolated, particularly those not in nuclear families or on the edge of the community. If you recognise this then think about what are the lightweight ways you could maintain relationships. Make sure you have some times of rest where others know that they are invited and welcome to join you.
Rest is a vital component of a missional lifestyle – how will you and your community be missionaries summer style?
Jenny Irvine, together with her husband Gareth and young daughter Jessica, lead a missional community base called Saint Aidan’s in the north of the city of Coventry. They’ve taken a small team of young adults with them, to live as in incarnational community focused around prayer and mission. They are currently involved in Kidz Klub which works with children from challenging housing estates, and visit about 30 families each week on the estate where they live.
One of the questions many of us have as we consider how to establish and grow Missional Communities is how do we make it both attractive and manageable for those who join us? How do we develop our Missional Communities in such a way that they become an integral part of life rather than just another activity to fit into the diary? How do we grow an Oikos – a family on mission.
It is essential to keep things simple. If we make things too complicated people will find it difficult to commit. They are also likely to see it as an activity rather than an integral part of life. So how do we create something that is lightweight, attractive and leads to the establishment of rhythms that transforms us from a group of people who meet for some interesting activities into a Family on Mission?
Something to be
We need to be clear as to what we are seeking to achieve. Each aspect of ‘A Family On Mission’ is important. We are seeking to establish a ‘Family’. But not just a family, one that is ‘On Mission’ together. We can put in place the structure of missional communities, the structure of discipleship and mission. However if we are to become that family on mission we need to move beyond the structure and framework to create the texture. A family isn’t just a structure it has a texture, a feel. Without it it is just a mechanism.
We want to ensure that our Missional Communities have a proper balance of the three dimensional life. The UP of our relationship with the Father, the IN of our relationship with our community – our family, and the OUT of our call to be on mission to do as Jesus did and commanded us. At first sight this can seem rather daunting and make us wonder how do we manage all of this without reinforcing the view that Missional Communities are events to put in the diary requiring lots of organisation and planned activity. However if instead of looking at this as something to do we look at it as something to be it becomes much more possible.
Making the things that we do lightweight will enable us to sustain them more easily. One of the things that we have learned is that meal times are a good way of beginning. The key though is not to invite people to join you so that you entertain them. You are not hosting a dinner party, you are having your family around for a meal. Inviting people to join in with your regular pattern is a great way to begin the process of creating Oikos. This begins to move us from just doing things together to being together.
One of the Missional Communities we experienced developed their rhythms in a way that reflected the principles of being lightweight and multipliable. When they first began to meet they were quite organised and structured but as they matured as a community they began to see that they needed a more sustainable way of doing things. As they met on a Sunday morning they decided that rather than each of them having breakfast at their own homes they would come together and share breakfast. Everyone brought something to share and it was fun and family. It worked for everyone, families with children, couples without children and single people.
Over this breakfast time they very naturally began to develop a closer relationship with one another. Joys, sorrows, needs etc were shared and everyone was supported and cared for. The leaders of the community then recognised that just as they did at home they needed to bring these joys, sorrows and needs to the Father so they introduced a time for sharing in this way. So naturally we saw this group move from being a collection of individuals into a community that went on to be a family. They began to meet in similar ways not just on a Sunday but on other days as well.
Out of these relationships then came a heightened desire to reach out to those around them who didn’t yet know Jesus. They joined together in a number of different ways to bless their local community as well as supporting one another in their various workplaces and wider contact groups. People were welcomed into the family of the Missional Community and over time a number became Christians and continued on their journey of discipleship.
The lesson for me in this is that it is important that we use and build on the things that we are already doing in our lives. We have meals – so invite people to join you. Make it natural not a fancy dinner party. Carry on with your normal rhythm. If you normally pray over a meal carry on doing that. Sharing things that we are thankful to God for is a powerful witness.
As we lead Missional Communities it is important that we develop predictable patterns. This means that the most important things are done intentionally and consistently. This brings stability to the community – the family. The rhythm of knowing what’s coming brings peace and comfort to the life of any family.
David Rosser lives in Durham with his wife Jenny. They have been involved in the development and implementation of missional communities for the past 12 years.
In the second part of our series looking at how we develop Families on Mission, Gareth Irvine suggests how to create a culture where everyone belongs to the family and everyone participates in the mission of the family. You can read Part one on Changing Minndsets here.
Last Sunday our extended family spent our afternoon going to a nearby splash pool followed by a picnic in the sunshine. We’re a missional community of around 25 people including couples, single adults, teenagers, children and babies all at different stages on our shared journey of following Jesus. Although it was quite a logistical challenge getting the right number of cars, drivers & child car seats together in the right place, there was much laughter, fun (an abundance of crisps!) and I’m really glad I get to be part of this family. After the picnic the kids went off to play in the park whilst the grownups lazed in the sun and chatted about life. Everyone brought food to share at the picnic and we spread it all out over a large rug and then dived in. At the end, there was still loads left for those that wanted to take some home.
How did we get there? How did we somehow get to a place where everyone was contributing to the life of this extended family in a fun & generous way?
Firstly, you need to IDENTIFY what is missing or lacking in the culture that you want to change. For us, working in a challenging urban environment, we were really keen not to create a provider-client relationship, because that’s not how Jesus did family with people. So we identified that as our missional community took shape and began to grow in its identity, we wanted generosity to each other and those beyond ourselves to become a key part of who we all were – where everyone got to play and bring their contribution to the life of the family – recognizing that this would look different for each of us, but possible for everyone in some way.
Next, we needed to intentionally LIVE the culture shift we wanted to change, even when it didn’t always feel like it was fair or anyone was taking any notice. For us, this meant not just buying the cheapest value biscuits but sometimes taking a little more effort and a few more resources to demonstrate generosity that actually costs us something – like baking a cake. It means as leaders of the missional community or the spiritual parents of your oikos you will need to sometimes go and help with the washing up (even if you’ve already cooked) just to demonstrate that everyone participates in the life of the family.
Thirdly, we needed to create regular and predictable PATTERNS that allowed others to understand and take their first steps in joining us in expressing the culture we were growing into. This means that when we gather together, we have begun to offer the same opportunities for people to contribute – in a way that is easily accessible for most people in the extended family. For about 8 months, we have been meeting monthly for a ‘family fun day out’, which is one of the ways we express our ‘out’ dimension by having fun together in a way that others can feel invited into the life of our family. Each month we have always encouraged people to bring something to share – biscuits, snacks, drinks etc. To begin with, we found we needed to contribute most of what was being eaten together, and yet we would celebrate and acknowledge whenever someone brought something – however small or random it might have been! The key thing was that the expectation that if you can bring something to share, then great; but don’t worry if you can’t, you can of course still come – has now led to a culture where people always feel welcome (belonging) and yet also feel able to join in where and when they can (participation) because the patterns of how to do that are simple & predictable.
What is the culture shift you are trying to change?
What is the discipline you will live personally as you lead into this?
What would a simple, predictable pattern look like that allows others to join you in the journey to this discipline becoming part of the culture of the family?
Gareth Irvine, together with his wife Jenny and daughter planted a new missional community base called Saint Aidan’s in the north of the city of Coventry in the summer of 2012. They took a small team of young adults with them, to live as an incarnational community focused around prayer and mission. They’re currently involved in Kidz Klub which works with children from challenging housing estates, and visit about 30 families each week on the estate where they live as well as gathering together for worship on the estate.
Today we start a new mini-series all about how to help you make the shift from thinking about church in terms of a series of events, towards becoming an extended family on mission – or ‘oikos’ which is the Greek word used in the New Testament for households of faith. Don’t forget you can pre-order the new 3DM book ‘Family on Mission’ now and it will arrive through your letterbox in early June.
A few years ago, when I was a member of our church staff team responsible for our missional communities, and before ‘oikos’ and ‘family on mission’ were often spoken about, I was deeply moved when a member of one of our communities came up to me in church one day and said that his missional community was his FAMILY. You see without much teaching and training on our part the leaders of this community had ‘got it’. Through the challenge of ‘what is God saying to you’ and ‘what are you going to do about it’ they had, through prayer, prophetic words, revelation and action become a FAMILY on MISSION.
It hadn’t been easy for them. There were many challenges but over time they moved from just being a missional group, meeting regularly to serve and reach out to the poor and homeless, to becoming a family. The family consisted of all kinds of people. It involved everyone. They were vulnerable, accountable, adaptable, committed, open and honest, having responsibility, and looking out for each other, being sacrificial, being there for each other often in very tragic situations. They came together regularly to eat, pray, and share resources. They had predictable patterns, leaders who they honoured, a shared vision and they were a family of about 30 people.
So how did this happen? What changed the mindset of that group? I believe it was their identity and the texture of the group that changed. The structure was always there but it was the way they began to operate that changed. They began to realise and understand that they had to be open to those they were reaching out to becoming part of the family. They were no longer outside of the group. They were real friends. Life is richer when it is shared even with those who annoy us from time to time! They were learning to live as Jesus did; they had an identity.
This change happened first among the original community. As they faced the challenges and fun of living out the vision God had given them they were drawn closer together and began to understand the importance of being a family. This understanding led to them recognising that those they were reaching out to were also called to be a part of this family. This in turn led on to a gradual shift in how they related to one another and to the inclusiveness that created the family. They became a ‘family on mission’ as they all sought to live out the vision.
Our identity is deeply rooted in family because the basic nature of God is family. Today the normal expression of family has been lost to us. But family in this context is not just for people with children or the perfect couple living in the suburbs but it is for people from all kinds of backgrounds coming together single, divorced, single parents….it includes every human being.
The difference between this group, which began as a missional community being a church activity, to becoming a family, was the call on everyone who belonged to share and contribute in the family business.
Building a Family on mission is a sacrificial call, it takes time to build, but is something we are all called to participate in.
Jenny Rosser lives in Durham with her husband David. They have been involved in the development and implementation of Missional Communities for the past 11 years.
This post follows Part One where Lucy and Andrew Buckley who lead a families Missional Community in Sheffield called Kin, share some of their thoughts on how they do that well.
Keep asking if it “fits”
We got to a point in our Missional Community where we weren’t sure what we were doing or why we were doing it. We also found we didn’t have time to fit in all the things we wanted to do in our personal lives. So we stopped, we reflected. And we realised that the problem was that our Missional Community and our personal lives were two different things. We had slipped into fitting a few meetings onto our lives rather than meeting together with people in order to live out our lives.
So we stopped leading a community and we re-discovered how we wanted to live our lives, how God wanted us to live our lives and what actually worked for us right now with our kids as they are. Then we started doing things, we made plans about prayer and mission and worship and rest and fun and friendships. And then we invited others to join us in this life we are trying to lead.As we tentatively walk this next season of life we have found a few questions helpful to give us the right perspective when things feel complicated or unclear:
Would we be doing this even if no-one was coming with us? Does it “fit” how we want to live our life?
Are we being realistic about the type of plans we are making? Does it “fit” the family stage?
Are we doing life and inviting people into it or are we adding Missional Community activities onto our life? Does it “fit” our rhythm of life?
So we eat together as MC adults one week in three. But instead of eating at 7.30pm followed by organised discussion and activity as I was used to before we had kids, we meet at some time between 7.30pm and 8pm giving time for kids to be put to bed. We eat whenever the food is ready, sometimes it is cooked in advance sometimes it’s all hands on deck and cooked together as life together. And while we eat we’ll chat, sometimes challenging, sometimes lightweight and maybe we’ll pray if the need arises. Then people can leave by 9 and go to sleep early if they need to or stay later if they want to. It “fits” with our family stage.
One month we were making plans for our community Sunday (where we meet on a Sunday morning as community rather than gathered with the wider church), and trying to think up our Missional activity. We were also working out how to fit in our house-warming party. It was too busy and it felt like our MC was getting in the way of what we wanted to do which was to get to know the neighbours and show our friends our new place. When Missional Community seems to be getting in the way it usually means I need a mind-shift. In this case it was simple: invite MC into our life. So our community Sunday activity was suddenly obvious, they came to our house and helped us host a house-warming. Suddenly again it did “fit” with how we wanted to live our life.
What about you? Does what your MC do feel like it ‘fits’ with your life? What do you need to change? What do you need stop? What do you need to start?