Missional Communities Workshops: Norwich and Sheffield

If you’ve been looking for an opportunity to come on a Missional Communities Workshop, or perhaps you’ve been to one but have been thinking about bringing a team from your church.  Or if perhaps you simply want a refresher on some of the principles then look no further!

Over the next few months 3DM UK are hosting 2 fantastic workshops designed to inform and inspire you in all things discipleship and mission.  For more information about the content of these days then click here.

The next 2 Workshop dates are:

Saturday 8th June 2013 in NORWICH - click here to book.

Saturday 13th July 2013 in SHEFFIELD - click here to book.

We hope to see you there!

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Lessons in Mission: Young Adults

 

Over the last few years of being involved in mission with young adults, I have always had it on my heart to lead and help others grow communities where people know that they are “sent”. I can remember long conversations – with both those who are Christians and those who are not – about how God is a sending God, that He sent Jesus to die for us and that He has now sent us into the broken world around us to represent Him and help see it restored into His image.

Within this, lots of us have (slowly!) learned how to get better at knowing who God has sent us to and how we can be good news to those around us. However, what I have realised along with others that have shared this journey with me is this: it’s not just who He has sent us TO, but who He has sent us WITH that’s important.

I think there are 2 key things within this that God has taught us:

1. We PARTNER WITH HIM

Matt 28:19 – “Go and make disciples… and surely I am with you, even until the end of the age.”

So there is this great paradox with living in the Kingdom – that God sends us, but is also with us. Confusing? Maybe. Reassuring? Definitely! I suppose what I have missed out from the long conversations I mentioned earlier is the realisation that God has sent His Holy Spirit to live in us and lead us. No longer do we go anywhere on our own.

I remember being part of a young adult/workplace focussed missional community years ago when God first spoke to me about how much He wanted to come to work with me! My whole outlook on my work changed; I started looking to go on little adventures with God, and I can honestly say that it marked a turning point in seeing numerous opportunities to share Jesus with people and see them discipled in various ways.

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Why did Jesus bother to recruit 12 down-and-outs at the start of His ministry? Why did He send the apostles out in 2’s to the towns and cities ahead of Him (Luke 10)? Why did He get 2 people to fetch a donkey (Mark 14)?? There’s a common theme – we don’t work alone!

Again, I think choosing to partner with others in mission is one of the best things some of us as young adults have learned to do. Missional communities are about being on mission together! In our current community, we are really enjoying the opportunity to introduce our people of peace to each other and inviting them to join in more with the whole community, through various things that we do. Maybe it’s just me, but sharing the Good News with others and trying to disciple them can be really tiring and hard when I do it alone! I need other people to encourage, challenge and inspire me in mission. I’m fairly convinced that going alone also prevents people from experiencing the fullness of the Gospel message: God IS COMMUNITY – He shares 3 relationships within Himself – Father, Son and Holy Spirit. They partner together in relationship with us and so when we go with others, we represent this to the world around us.

Two of the biggest giants that we have seen in young adult culture are probably individualism and consumerism. In essence, both of these are about putting “me” at the centre. What we have found is that if, as those trying to reach young adults, we buy into either of these 2 ways of thinking, we cease to be effective in mission. This is because mission isn’t about putting “me” at the centre – rather, it’s about God and others around us. So when we choose partnership it allows God’s natural grace for mission to flow and for others to experience God for who He really is – the One who is committed to relationship and adventure with others, no matter what. To a broken, lonely and frustrated generation, that’s incredibly Good News.

Who has God sent you to?

Are you partnering with Him?

Who are you taking with you as you go?

 

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Simon Ford lives in Sheffield, is part of the King’s Centre Church and works for 3dm UK. He has been part of and led various young adult and workplace-focussed missional communities over the last 9 years.

Community Values: tomorrow’s ideals or today’s reality?

 

In this blog post we’re going to explore some of the principles of how to live out the values of a shared missional community life together. When our church family first began the re-discovery of biblical community with young adults seeking to live out the dynamic relationships of UP-IN-OUT in the context of mid-size groups, we talked a lot about having a shared vision and shared values.

As we’ve developed and grown and learnt a lot along the way, we’ve realized that something more is needed. Values are a great thing to have for people who are good at boundaries. Yet if you’re working with the current Generation Y of largely undiscipled young adults – who have massively high idealism and hopes for a better future tomorrow, but often little understanding of how to live that out today – it can be helpful to do a bit of translation. Mike Breen posted about this recently in the ‘State of the Evangelical Union’: Gen Y want to rebuild something from the ancient foundations of the Christian faith, but the question they are asking is ‘how’?

Community values should be more than defining your boundaries or a set of rules of who or what is allowed in the life of your group. They need to be embodied or rooted into community practices – things that you do together day
in, day out, that work for the size and context of your group. We call this a community rhythm of life. Jesus had a ton of values – we can call them the way of the kingdom of God – but the way he really got them under peoples’ skin was
how he integrated his talking about God’s new values (Sermon on the Mount…) and demonstrating God’s new values in the everyday of first century life in Galilee and Judea (Healing people, eating with sinners, and discipling those around him.)

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It’s the difference between saying you like football and holding a season ticket for your local club.

So, if one of your values is prayer (which is a good one to have!), then the question shifts from ‘we are community that values prayer and listening to the Holy Spirit’ to ‘we are a community that prays together every day/3 times a week/etc etc…’

If one of your values is ‘we do mission together’, then it only truly becomes a value – something lived out, that you place importance and value on in terms of your time, energy and resources – when you can show someone outside your
community how they can come and join you next week in what you were already planning to do.

At their worst, values can remain at the conceptual and visionary stage of tomorrow’s ideals.

At their best, values which are expressed in shared rhythms of life can be the very pathway of seeing your vision become a reality day by day.

There’s a little tool we’ve been learning about recently which develops the process of taking something you want your group or team to be about to it actually bearing fruit.

First, you need structure. When will you do this (insert aspired value) and how?

Commitment to a regular structure leads to stability. Don’t change things yet just because it’s harder than you thought!

Stability leads to security. People start to trust the process and the effort, and own the value as something that they can be a part of.

Security leads to significance. People start to see the benefit and significance of the thing they’ve been investing into.

Finally, significance leads to success. The process of sowing into the new thing sees the new value take root and before long fruitfulness comes, but often not in a way that could have been predicted back when you started.

Spiritual disciplines, after all, are about the indirect effort of the kingdom – investing the little what we’ve got, so God can give us what he’s got (Feeding of the Five Thousand).

The missional community we are part of here in Coventry seek to incarnate the life that we see Jesus living, through:

  • Life of communal prayer every weekday.
  • Eating together every day and being thankful.
  • Doing mission together, at least once a week, through kids work on the estate, visiting families, and showing hospitality to our neighbours.
  • Being part of a wider family of people who inspire us, challenge us, love and cheer us on (for us this is our sending church and the Order of Mission)
  • Sharing of resources, including generating income and blessing others.

How does your community reflect some of these values?

gareth irvineGareth Irvine, together with his wife Jenny and baby daughter planted a new missional community base called Saint Aidan’s in the north of the city of Coventry last summer.  They took a small team of young adults with them, to live as an incarnational community focused around prayer and mission.  They’re currently involved in Kidz Klub which works with children from challenging housing estates, and visit about 30 families each week on the estate where they live.

LAST CHANCE BOOKINGS for MC Workshop next week!

If you’re interested in finding out more about Missional Communities then make a date to come to our next Missional Communities Workshop on February 14th in Sheffield.

For more details click on the flyer and click here to book on.

We look forward to seeing you there!

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Top 3 Posts of 2012: Families

 

Lastly in our most popular blog posts of 2012, Rich Robinson shares how to make MCs and children work together well. 

 

How do you make Missional Communities and Children work together?

There have been countless studies on how children learn, how they interact with information, and how they grow.

One of the themes of this research is that there are three primary environments in which children learn. These are ClassroomApprenticeship and Immersion:

1) Classroom: The child is taught something by somebody. They listen and then process the information being shared with them.

2)Apprenticeship: The child is shown something by somebody. The child is involved in, and therefore learning from, a process. Information is engaged with, and processed through, implementation, experimentation and application.

3) Immersion: The child experiences and gathers information from the culture, environment or context within which they live.

Sunday morning church kids work is usually 45 minutes, or an hour at best, in the week of a child’s life. There might be activities, object lessons or games to go along with the bible teaching to help the children think through how to apply what they are hearing. It’s a good environment to share information but it’s still a classroom method.

Missional Community on mission together gives children & young people the environment to learn by being part of a community that lives out its faith. They are given the opportunity to be part of a group that looks to share its faith with others that don’t know Jesus. They don’t just attend an event but learn from many different and varied life experiences. They are encouraged to take more responsibility and to participate; to be part of the community – not just to be talked at, but talked with. In a Missional Community context children are not just waiting for adults to define something but shaping and crafting it themselves. They can be involved in, and contribute to, the life of the community.

Children learn by living out their faith – not just learning about their faith from others. They take hold of it for themselves through apprenticeship and immersion – seeing their parents lead, learning how to study the Bible for themselves and sharing Biblical reflections. A Missional Community context necessitates that young people help with younger children, serving and sharing faith together as family.

There are many different ways communities function as they gather. When thinking about appropriate environments for Missional Communities we’ve found it helpful to think through environments which are already natural and normal to families, regardless of whether or not they are Christian.

Three environments all families interact with are:

1) The Educational environment (i.e school, nursery)

This is where the parents & children are learning together. We encourage families and extended families (Missional Communities) to think about rhythms of family prayer, worship and study. One of our family Missional Communities had gatherings where they took a bible passage and the children & young people came up with a drama, craft and teaching lesson from what they’d learnt and then shared with the adults. Even the non-christians kids loved it!! Lots of applause and good conversations followed.

2) The Coffee Shop environment (i.e. Starbucks, restaurants)

This is an adult environment with children present – tables, papers and coffee with activities in the room. This environment encourages the informal relationships and interactions between children, parents and the extended family. One of our geographic Missional Communities does this as an access point for non-Christians with prayer cards and opportunities for conversations on the tables.

3) The Party dynamic (i.e. birthdays)

This is an environment where parents serve the kids – everything is set up for the kids to have a great time together – noise, mess, chaos, games, fun………sweets!! This is a great way to really help relationships & their faith come alive because if there’s one thing kids can do it’s have fun!! This is also an environment where non-Christian parents and children can engage – enjoying the experience.

The imperative of parents taking the responsibility as primary disciplers of their children, and doing this in the context of a Missional Community, has become foundational at St Thomas’ Church, Philadelphia.

Our different Missional Communities use many of these dynamics as they gather and disciple their children, rather than abdicate to the children’s workers or doing a smaller version of Sunday school in a side room whilst the adults gather. The central Children’s Ministry is set up to resource the communities – in prayer, training, and resources – so that families can express their faith locally in community.

The synergy that comes from both a Sunday celebration (with central ministry resourcing) and a Missional Community lifestyle for discipleship of children is a dynamic that works for both parents & children. They are able to grow not only in relationship with God but also with each other as they learn, together, how to be a family of missional disciples.

What have you done that has worked well with the children in your MC?

 

Rich Robinson is a Director of 3dm UK and is the Missional Communities Team Leader at Network Church Sheffield where he has been involved in pioneering, planting and leading Missional Communities for over 12 years.  He and his wife Anna have 3 wonderful young children.

Top 3 Posts of 2012: Oikos

 

Today we continue our re-posting of the most popular 3 posts from 2012.  Today, an introduction to the principles of Oikos from Simon Ford.

 

Some of the most common questions you hear people asking about MC’s are “what’s so unique about Missional Communities?” or even “why is a Missional Community different to a small group?”

If you have looked around this site much or been involved with MC’s for a while, you will know that Missional Communities are described as “extended families” on a mission together. This extended family principle is a key foundation of any MC and refers to a particular way of living that we see the early disciples experiencing in the book of Acts. The word in Acts that describes this extended family is “Oikos” – an odd sounding Greek word that really helps us to understand what the heart of a MC should be!

For example, in Acts 20.20, Paul writes “…I have preached the gospel publicly and from house to house” – in effect from household to household. This word for house/household is Oikos.

But what does it mean?

Well, to Paul’s original audience, this would have had a very clear meaning. They would have know that he was referring to the everyday “extended family unit” that everyone functioned in – a place where extended families spent time together, shared meals, took care of business and looked after each other.

20120904-173152.jpgIt would be easy to read this from a Westernised mindset and automatically think we’re just talking about the modern day nuclear family – we’re not! Most of these extended families would have involved around 15-35 people (which, funnily enough is the size we normally recommend for a MC) and would have included Aunts, Uncles, Grandparents and others. There is a particular dyanamic created in a group this size (known in sociology as the “social space” – one of 4 types of space that we all look to function in. Click here to read a blog from 3DM about this) which is very different to that of a small group.

This style of belonging would also have been very useful social structure for the disciples when they landed themselves with thousands of converts to disciple and a faith community to lead that was growing daily!

As an overview of how these things worked, here are 5 key principles involved in an Oikos that help to inform some of the underlying values of a Missional Community (an extended family on mission together), along with some quick examples and questions for you to ponder.

1. Prayer
Oikos was a place for spiritual growth and expression. As an extended family, we gather together in times of prayer and worship. This doesn’t mean replicating a Sunday service, rather learning to engage with the Lord together as a family would. This could take a variety of forms and be with or without music, using Psalms, writing words of praise or simply giving thanks round the table. Does your community come together before God?

2. Meals
How many examples are there of the disciples eating or sharing food together? Lots! Sharing meals is such a key part of building community and growing extended family relationships! In our Oikos, we do this through a combination of Sunday lunch, meals in the evening and often breakfast together! Whatever works for your “extended family”.  How often does your community share a meal together?

3. Shared Resources
An Oikos meant members of the family becoming interdependent and sharing what they had (we see the disciples spelling out this principle for us in Acts 2:42). This is often the hardest aspect of Oikos for people to grow in, as it can be the most countercultural. This could look like sharing possessions, offering regular time to help someone out, supporting someone financially, inviting someone to live with you… The list goes on! It’s about finding somewhere to start. Where could you take the next step in shared resources within your community?

4. Fun
When do you simply enjoy each other’s company? Jesus said of his disciples: “I no longer call you servants…but friends” (John15:15). Its important that those in our communities are growing deeper in friendship, as well as their personal discipleship. When are the times that you know you can just be together and have fun?

5. Mission
An Oikos had common purpose as well as relationship. Our communities need to be galvanized around a common vision and direction. The mission of the family should be know to everyone in the family. Where are we trying to make a difference? Who are we reaching out to? How are we being committed to seeing the kingdom break into a neighbourhood or network of people?

There are many aspects of Oikos that can feel unnatural or hard initially. Be encouraged – you are not alone! We all have lots of cultural obstacles to overcome in order to grow these “extended family” style relationships within our communities. This is because this so-called “social space” has largely disappeared from our culture today (how often do you see extended families gathered together?) so it won’t happen instantly. But with each of these characteristics, perhaps ask yourself where God is calling you as a community to take the next step.

To read more on Oikos, check out our series on the 3dm UK blog

Simon Ford lives in Sheffield, is part of the King’s Centre Church and works for 3dm UK. He has been part of and led various young adult and workplace-focussed missional communities over the last 9 years.

Top 3 Posts of 2012

 

Over the next week we will be re-posting the most popular 3 blogs of 2012. So if you missed them the first time around then you won’t miss out!

Firstly, Lindsay Lonchar on  Communities as LIMBS (Look out for a follow-up post to this one soon.)

 

I was thinking recently about how at our church in Sheffield we are one body of people who both gather and go; we regularly come together to be sent back out again. This gathering and sending happens within MCs as well as in the way that MCs relate to what goes on at the central campus.

As I was pondering the unique way our church works, the following picture came to mind, along with the thought that “Communities are LIMBS.”

The central resource base is like a torso with lots going on inside – a place we can come to in order to celebrate with our wider family, encounter God with a larger group of people and be equipped and resourced. Communities on the other hand are limbs, the moving parts that give the body its mission-reach. They are the primary place of belonging for people, as well as the primary place for mission, discipleship and developing leaders.

I think LIMBS, when used as an acronym, expresses the values that are most important to Missional Communities:

L ove and service motivated
I ncarnational
M ission and Discipleship
B eing Family
S ent & Sending

Let’s have a look at the first one - Love & service motivated.

1 John 4:8b says that “GOD IS LOVE.” Surely these are 3 of the most important words in the whole of scripture! John 13:35 says that it is “by our love” that the world will know we are his disciples. Luke 22:27b also says that Jesus came among us as “one who serves” and that the greatest among us is the “servant of all”. (Luke 22:26)

We can’t give away what we haven’t first received, which is why it’s so vital that we constantly prioritise spending time in His loving presence and inviting Him into all the details of our lives.

The unconditional, no change required love we enjoy from our heavenly Father has to extend beyond ourselves and be a seeking, welcoming and embracing love for those new to our community and outside of it.

Loving others is costly and sacrificial – love is not self-serving but serves the interests of others and considers them above ourselves. (1 Cor 13, Phil 2:3.4) Who is God calling you to love and serve, at personal cost to yourself?

As Paul makes clear, without God’s 1 Cor 13 type of love we are “nothing.” My prayer is that we would be people and communities who are known for our love and servant hearts above all else.

We’ll unpack the other values in future blog posts!

Lindsay Lonchar is part of the Communities and Training Team at St Thomas’ Church Philadelphia in Sheffield and is also training to become a Baptist Minister.  

Missional Communities Workshop – February 2013

If you’re interested in finding out more about Missional Communities then make a date to come to our next Missional Communities Workshop on February 14th in Sheffield.  

For more details click on the flyer and click here to book on.

We look forward to seeing you there!

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Real Life Discipleship: Starbucks or Stable?

This is the last post from the Missional Communities Team for 2012.  Thank you for reading and we look forward to seeing you in the New Year! Merry Christmas!

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Christmas is crazy.

In between the parties, concerts, last-minute dash for presents, getting tied-up in the sticky-tape and changing the fuse on the Christmas lights, sometimes it’s hard to remember Jesus at the very time of year we should be celebrating Him.

In the past few years the word ‘incarnational’ has become prevalent in our conversation about being missional disciples.  Incarnational mission, incarnational discipleship, incarnational community: the idea of living amongst those we want to reach has captivated our understanding of what the Christian life is all about.

And this is no surprise.  Jesus is the very picture of incarnation: He took on flesh and embodied the Good News in the way He lived, died and rose again.  And Christmas is a great time to remember this!

As we think about our own discipleship and how we disciple others there are so many challenges in the way that Jesus came into the world.  Here are just a few to consider:-

“She wrapped him in cloths and placed him in a manger, because there was no guest room available for them.”  Luke 2 v 7

Jesus made Himself utterly vulnerable and dependent on others.   Babies are helpless, requiring all nurture and sustenance from their parents.  It’s amazing to think of the level of vulnerability Jesus experienced and the sacrifice that this was in order to be our Saviour.

  • How are you returning to Jesus in this season, seeking rest and sustenance from Him, rather than relying on your own strength?

 

“The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us.” John 1 v 14

He became like us, putting Himself under all the temptations, challenges and difficulties of this world.  Jesus knew that the most effective way to disciple the next generation of leaders was by walking alongside them and inviting them on a real life journey with Him – not just grabbing Starbucks once a month.

  • Where do you need to change the way that you disciple others – placing yourself within their culture and inviting them into your life so that you are closely journeying together – even when that context presents challenges and difficulties for you?

 

“Rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness.” Philippians 2 v 7

Jesus chose the messy places to walk out His calling – from the manger in the stable to the tax collector’s home, Jesus invited people into relationship with Him and chose to live that out with them, even when they were challenging and it was uncomfortable.

  • Where are the messy places / the messy people that God is asking you to go to … and stay?

 

Jon and Helen BearnHelen Bearn lives in Sheffield with her husband Jon, and are part of St Thomas’ Church, Philadelphia.  They’ve been part of and led missional communities for the past 5 years and are passionate about seeing young adults released into their missional vision.  Jon works for Sheffield Council in procurement and Helen works for 3dmUK, a ministry which trains and equips church leaders in missional discipleship.

Sustaining a Life of Mission…Spiritual Disciplines

 

Discipline…. Ooh I can just feel the shudder down my spine!

I wonder how many of us grew up in the Discipline = Death generation??

I’m fairly sure I did.

I think that when we think about “discipline” or discuss it in our communities, it can often be met with a similar level of enthusiasm to cleaning the toilet, or emptying the dustbin!

“OK – I’ll do this ‘cos I should, but let’s just do it as quickly as possible and move on!”

I think a helpful shift I have seen in communities is where we understand that discipline is a practice that helps us to grow as a disciple (they come from the same word after all), rather than associating it with something that always involves pain and punishment! I don’t know about you, but that is something I can get much more enthusiastic about.

So what on earth do we mean by spiritual disciplines then? From reading the New Testament, we can see how the disciples devoted themselves to such things as prayer, reading the word and fasting. In communities I have been part of, these are the things we would call disciplines, as they help us to grow as disciples. We encourage and challenge each other to grow in each of these areas. If we want to sustain a missional lifestyle, these are vital, because any heart/desire for mission is always birthed in a place of drawing near to God and hearing His heart for others. Spiritual disciplines enable us to do this.

One of the reasons I love missional communities is because they are places where we engage with these kinds of disciplines together – with others – and not just by ourselves. I really enjoyed Ben Askew’s summer post on reading the Bible in community, because I thought it was a helpful reminder not to be doing this stuff just as individuals. In our community, we read a passage of scripture together every time we meet. Sometimes we discuss it over the dinner table, other times on the sofa with coffee, but we make a point of reading together and then asking each other questions about it and how we can respond.

We also pray and worship together – and I would say that as the weeks and months go by, we can see each other to grow in our personal walk with Jesus. This is because as we practice doing this stuff together, people get inspired and challenged to do it more on their own. We can’t wait for everyone to nail spiritual disciplines magically by themselves and then bring this personal discovery into community! That’s not what missional communities are about – instead, they are about ordinary, busy, not-there-yet sorts of people trying to discover together how to live more like Jesus.

And the key to making all of this work? If you ask me, it’s simply accountability. The most fruitful, long lasting change I have seen in our young adult community this year has come from people being honest and accountable about the discipline God has asked them to engage with – not trying to do it by themselves, but asking others to help, pray for them, encourage them, or even join in. This has unlocked huge amounts of grace, provision, healing… I think this applies to spiritual disciplines too. The only areas of spiritual discipline that I have managed to sustain and grow in my own life are the ones that others in the community know about and can hold me accountable to.

And the great thing about all of this is – as we go through this process, it changes from becoming a just a discipline, to becoming a habit, to becoming a lifestyle and rhythm of community life. It’s how we live.

So my testimony and challenge would be that, in terms of seeing growth in spiritual disciplines and our personal walk, we have faith for as much change as we are accountable for. I can’t see that God ever designed us to operate in this alone. Discipline doesn’t have to mean death any more! It’s an opportunity to grow as a community of disciples trying to follow Jesus.

Which spiritual disciplines are you growing in as a comm
unity?

Is it part of your rhythm?

How much discipline are you accountable for/sharing with others?

 

Simon Ford lives in Sheffield, is part of the King’s Centre Church and works for 3dm UK. He has been part of and led various young adult and workplace-focussed missional communities over the last 9 years